Control Your Drinking

Or Finally Stop Negotiating With It.

This course helps gray-area drinkers figure out whether moderation is actually possible, or whether quitting is the relief they’ve been avoiding.

This Is What Gray-Area Drinking Actually Feels Like

You keep creating new rules around drinking… then eventually breaking the same ones
You negotiate with yourself about alcohol more than you want to admit
You can stop sometimes… which almost makes the whole thing more confusing
You compare yourself to people who “have it worse” to reassure yourself
You wake up anxious after nights that technically looked “fine”
You tell yourself you’ll cut back… then slowly drift back into the same patterns
You are productive, responsible, successful… and still privately unsettled by this
You keep wondering whether you really need more control… or whether you are exhausted from trying to maintain it
Deep down, you already know this is taking up more mental space than it should

You do not need someone to shame you.
You need clarity about what is actually happening.

Luke’s Bio

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Luke DeBoy, LCSW-C, CAC-AD

I’ve Spent Years Watching High-Functioning People Quietly Exhaust Themselves Over Alcohol

I’m a licensed therapist and the founder of Recovery Collective.

Many of the people I work with are not stereotypical “alcoholics.”

They are successful.
Responsible.
High-functioning.

They go to work.
Take care of their families.
Show up for people.
Handle their lives.

And privately, they are completely exhausted by the mental load of alcohol.

The constant rules.
The bargaining.
The “starting over Monday.”
The wondering if they are overreacting.
The fear that maybe moderation should not feel this hard.

That is the pattern I see over and over again.

Not because these people are weak.
Because they are stuck in an exhausting cycle of negotiation that slowly drains their peace, confidence, energy, and self-trust.

This course was built to help people step out of that confusion and finally get honest clarity.

Not shame.
Not labels.
Not scare tactics.

Just a direct, therapist-guided framework to help you figure out one important question:

Can you truly control this relationship with alcohol…

Or would letting go finally feel like relief?

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Founder, Recovery Collective (award-winning private practice)
Creator, A Therapist, A Buddhist, & You (award-winning podcast)
Former Clinical Director, Tranquility Woods (Newsweek Best Addiction Center MD, 2020)
Developer, IUPAT Helping Hand Program (International Union Mental Health Curriculum & Implementation)
National Speaker (Las Vegas, Boston, and more)
CEU Facilitator for licensed mental health professionals
Helped thousands get honest about their drinking—without shame, labels, or pressure to fit someone else’s idea of recovery
Graduate, University of Maryland School of Social Work
Author of 100+ articles/blogs on mental health and addiction
Developed Drug & Alcohol Awareness Program for University Athletics Department (2007)

What Changes When You Stop Negotiating

You stop wasting energy trying to “manage” something that has been quietly managing you.

Inside this course, you will learn how to:

Understand whether moderation is realistically working for you or simply keeping the cycle going
Identify the patterns, triggers, and thought loops that keep pulling you back into negotiation
Stop relying on reactionary willpower and start using a framework that creates actual clarity
Reduce the anxiety, guilt, and mental exhaustion tied to drinking decisions
Rebuild trust in your own judgment instead of constantly second-guessing yourself
Create a relationship with alcohol that feels honest instead of emotionally draining

The goal is not perfection.
The goal is relief.
Relief from constantly thinking about alcohol.
Relief from bargaining with yourself.
Relief from wondering whether this is becoming a bigger problem than you want to admit.

You Already Know This Is Taking Up Too Much Space In Your Head

You do not need more promises.
You do not need another rule.
You do not need to keep restarting every Monday.

You need clarity.

This course will help you honestly figure out whether moderation is truly working… or whether the relief you actually want is on the other side of letting go.

You Do Not Need To Decide Forever Today

Most people avoid looking honestly at their drinking because they think the only options are:

Keep going exactly as things are
Or immediately commit to sobriety forever

That pressure keeps people stuck.

This course is different.

You do not need to label yourself.
You do not need to announce anything.
You do not need to decide your entire future today.

You just need enough honesty to ask:

Is moderation actually working…
or am I exhausted from trying to make it work?

That is the work.

Not shame.
Not scare tactics.
Not pretending you have hit “rock bottom.”

Just clarity.

Get Clear About What’s Actually Happening

The Real Cost Is The Mental Load

“I’ll only drink on weekends.”
“I’ll take this week off.”
“I’ll switch to beer.”
“I’ll only drink socially.”
“I’ll stop after two.”
“I’ll start over Monday.”
At first, these rules feel responsible.
Eventually, they become exhausting.
Because the problem is no longer just alcohol.
It is how much space alcohol has started taking up in your mind.
The bargaining.
The overthinking.
The recovery days.
The guilt after nights that “weren’t even that bad.”
The constant resetting.
The quiet anxiety.
The question is whether moderation should really feel this difficult.
That mental negotiation drains more energy than most people realize.
And eventually, the exhausting part is not just drinking itself.
It is carrying the question around all the time:
“Is this actually working anymore?”
That is the cycle this course is designed to help you finally see clearly.

Find Out What’s Actually Going On

What You’ll Actually Get Inside

Step-by-Step Chapters That Help You Get Honest

This course walks you through your relationship with alcohol from reflection… to clarity… to decision-making.
No vague inspiration.
No recovery clichés.
No endless theory.
Just a structured process designed to help you figure out what is actually true for you.
Therapist-Designed Worksheets & Reflection Tools

These are not generic journal prompts.
They are the same exercises and frameworks I use with clients to uncover patterns, challenge blind spots, and break the cycle of constant negotiation around drinking.
The goal is not shame.
The goal is honest awareness.
SMART Goal Templates Built Around Real Drinking Patterns

Most people do not fail because they lack motivation.
They fail because they create unrealistic rules with no sustainable structure behind them.
These templates are designed around real-world drinking behaviors and decision patterns so you can stop guessing and start making changes that actually hold up in real life.
A Drink Tracker That Helps You See Patterns Clearly
This is not about obsessively counting drinks.
It is about removing denial and increasing awareness.
You will begin seeing:
- when drinking escalates
- what triggers it
- how your rules shift
- where your self-negotiation actually happens
Because clarity changes behavior faster than shame ever will.
Practical Tools For Cravings, Triggers, and High-Risk Moments

You will get real-world tools you can actually use in the moments that normally pull you back into old patterns.
Scripts.
Interruptions.
Reframes.
Routines.
Alternatives.
Not “just use willpower.”
Not white-knuckling.
Actual strategies that reduce friction in real life.
Access to The Live Group Calls & Coaching
- Full course access
- Live group coaching calls
- Guided discussion and feedback
- Additional support while moving through the course
These sessions are designed to help you stay engaged, ask questions, and apply the material in a more supported way.
Available for a limited number of participants.

This is more than education—it’s implementation.
What’s worked in therapy, groups, and coaching, streamlined into one experience
You don’t have to commit to quitting forever. You just have to get clear on what’s actually working—and be honest about what’s not.
If you keep needing rules to control your drinking after this course... maybe the issue isn’t the rules. It’s time to find out what’s real.

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Before & After: In Their Words

“I didn’t think my drinking was that bad…”

"I wasn’t waking up with a drink in my hand, but I knew something needed to change. Luke didn’t make me feel like a failure or stay in denial. He gave me a process that made sense and the space to figure it out without pressure."
Anonymous— Client in early stage exploration
“I’d tried to cut back on my own for years.”

“Every time I tried to moderate, I’d end up back where I started, feeling like a failure. Luke’s framework helped me finally see the patterns clearly. For the first time, I’m making changes that actually last.”

Anonymous— Former client working on moderation
“I was scared to ask for help.”

“Luke’s approach was so compassionate and real. He met me where I was and gave me the clarity I needed to move forward. I’ll always be grateful for his approach and the way he showed up for me."

Anonymous— Group participant

Control or Quit? Your Guide to Cutting Back or Cutting off Alcohol

$297.00

One time

Recorded video modules spanning 5 chapters of multi-lesson step-by-step process to explore your habits related to alcohol use. Download/print the accompanying workbook for 25 pages of therapist-designed worksheets and reflective writing to create a personalized plan to cut back on drinking and change your behaviors in a way that is proven & effective.

Why I Built This

There are so many people who could benefit from support—therapy, structure, even just a helping hand—but too often, they don’t seek it out until shame, crisis, or rock bottom forces the issue.

I wanted to create a path that reaches people before doom and despair. A path that offers clarity, not judgment. Support, not pressure.

Over the years, I’ve been told I’ve saved lives. That families were held together, or that someone’s best chapter began because of our work. I don’t take credit for that. Just like I don’t own someone’s relapse, I can’t take ownership of their success.

But what I do take pride in is this: I’ve been a conduit. A catalyst. A steady guide who helps people help themselves.

Whether I’m sitting with a client in my office, working with a family in crisis, or training trainers across the country for an International Union—I’ve always believed in putting something good into the world. The Clarity Solution is an extension of that belief.

And now, it’s here for you.

Let’s help you figure out your next right step—before things spiral, and while you still have the power to choose your path.

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How Our Transformative Program Compares

Compare our approach to books, therapy, rehab, and more.

If you’ve been stuck between reading another quit-lit book, signing up for therapy, or wondering if rehab is “too much”—you’re not alone.
This chart lays it all out so you can see how The Clarity Solution delivers clarity, structure, and transformation… without the price tag, pressure, or red tape.

It’s a powerful starting point—especially if you’re still figuring out your next step.

✅ How Control or Quit Compares

Compare the experience to therapy, inpatient, IOP, and books/podcasts.

Features / Format	Control or Quit	Therapy	IOP	Inpatient	Books / Podcasts
Created by a fully licensed mental health professional	✅	✅*	➖	➖	❌
Your goals, not their agenda	✅	✅*	➖	➖	✅
Next step clarity	✅	✅*	✅*	✅*	❌
Flexible on your schedule	✅	❌	❌	❌	✅
Affordable & clear pricing from start to finish with a clear ending	✅	❌	❌	❌	✅
No diagnosis or insurance required	✅	❌	❌	❌	✅
Private and judgment-free	✅	✅*	❌	❌	✅
Tailored tools, reflection & planning	✅	✅*	➖	➖	❌
Built-in support options	✅	✅	✅	✅	❌
No pressure to label or quit	✅	✅*	❌	❌	✅

✅ = Strong alignment with the feature
✅* = May vary depending on provider
➖ = Neutral or varies widely
❌ = Typically not included or aligned

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✺ Frequently asked questions ✺

Nope. This isn’t therapy—there’s no diagnosis, no treatment plan, and no pressure.
It’s an experience built on the tools and perspectives I’ve used throughout my career, working with individuals, groups, and clients at the international level.
You’ll get structure, insight, and support—without crossing the line into clinical care.
Yes. Many people join to cut back, not quitting entirely. This course helps you explore whether drinking—on your terms—works for you. You’ll test that with structure, honesty, and no shame.
The core content is designed to be completed in about 2–4 weeks, but you can move at your own pace. Some people binge-watch the videos in a weekend, while others take their time with the workbook and reflection exercises.
Your timeline will depend on your personal goals. The purpose of this course is to help you actively test whether you can successfully cut back or need to stop completely, while applying the tools and strategies to support whichever path is right for you.

That’s more common than you think. This course doesn’t rely on willpower alone or vague promises. You’ll get structure, insight, and the same tools I’ve used with clients for years to create real change.
You’ll stop spinning, stop making excuses for what’s not working, and finally get the clarity to take action—whether that means drinking differently or not drinking at all.
Because this is a digital course with immediate access to all content, all sales are final and refunds are not offered. Please review the course description carefully and reach out before enrolling if you have any questions. I’m happy to help you decide if it’s the right fit.
This is an investment in your growth, clarity, and personal journey.
You’ll leave this course with clarity about what’s working, what’s not, and what comes next.
If your goals aren’t being met, I’ll guide you through the next steps, including trusted resources and recommendations for higher-level care as an option.
Please note that this course is not a substitute for medical or clinical treatment. If you’re physically dependent on alcohol or may need detox, medical supervision is strongly recommended.

Still Hesitating? Here's the Honest Truth.

Not totally sure this course is the right fit for you? That’s more than okay.

You’ve probably tried things before that didn’t deliver—or maybe you’re used to second-guessing when it comes to investing in yourself.

This isn’t another one-size-fits-all plan. It’s a therapist-designed system that gives you real tools, honest insight, and the structure to finally get clear on your drinking—without pressure, shame, or labels.

If you’re looking for someone to tell you what to do, this might not be it.
But if you’re ready to understand what you need and how to move forward finally,

This course is the solution.

Please contact or email us before joining; we’re happy to help answer your questions.